Here's a little fitness food for thought: You're on a journey right now to an ultimate goal, correct? Some of you are at the beginning, some very close to achieving said goal, or maybe you're currently "on the side of the road" right now. You've maybe gotten discouraged or had to take a pause in your stride because of injury or illness. But here's what I want us to think about today, how many people have you really asked to support you in your goal? Not assumed that they'd be there because they are close to you or have in the past. But this time, at whatever stage you're in. Many of us would just assume we do or do not have someone's support. But here's what's interesting; the act of asking calls on that person's commitment to accountability or desire to enable the bad behaviors or thought patterns that you need to leave behind in order to be successful. Over the years of training people I've noticed many interesting dynamics develop between family members, friends, even co-workers when one person decides to move in a different direction in life. Your decision and subsequent actions make in impact on others. Even though your choices are healthy and aim to create a positive environment, sometimes that makes others very uncomfortable. They can be threatened by your enthusiasm or success. They might feel insecure because of their own perceptions of what that might mean for the future of your relationship to them. Spouses become jealous of their partner's weight loss and start to sabotage the kitchen with tempting treats. Friends start to ridicule someone's clothing choices because that person's new confidence is threatening to the social structure that once was. After I started competing, I even had clients drop me because they thought I wouldn't want to work with people "like them" anymore. And if you know me at all, that's completely untrue. But people get fearful. So pay attention. They may act out in all kinds of negative ways, but usually it's fear-based.
So keep those lines of communication open. Ask, and ask again. Be clear about where you are and you never know, someone who may have sabotaged you in the past may just be the one to get you back on your feet again and help you succeed this time around.