I seem to be having a lot of these conversations lately and today one of my clients emailed me with their frustrations in adopting their new program with me. I thought I'd share my response in hopes of benefiting those of you who feel the same.
"I had a similar conversation with my coach once, I found I would always try to rebel against a new program. Usually for me it was change of macros. But what she told me is that in order to make the progress that we want to, we must be willing to make changes and stick with them. Primarily because these changes are made for our benefit, and not as a form of punishment. Therefore you only hurt your progress by rebelling or delaying adherence.
But the thing is, you're not at all being "forced" to do this or any program. Everything you're doing is solely your choice! You didn't have to start working with me, you chose to, and that shows that you want to express an amount of trust in what direction I lead in order to get you to your goals. The starting point is clear, you know where you are and what you've done to get there. And you have a clear idea of where you want to end up. But the in-between you have to surrender to someone's lead, work the program and trust (not just emotionally, and logically, but also with your actions) that I will get you there.
And if you've been burned by bad coaching or never fully handed over some of your choices (how much food you eat, how much you exercise, etc) to someone and always done your own version of someone else's plan, than you have no basis on which to accept that this program I've given you WILL in fact work.
So there is the choice you are left to make, do you abandon fears of bad experiences and discipline yourself to what you are given, or do you continue with old behaviors because they are familiar?
Know that I'll never ask you to accept my recommendations on blind faith, you can always ask as many "why" questions as you want.... As long as those are followed with action. Because you can definitely get into a rhythm of asking and doubting as a way of avoiding action. Being doubtful or anxious can sometimes become a tool (so to speak) for avoiding initiation.
So what does the alternative look like? Prioritizing an action plan, such as the homework I gave you in the last email. It means accepting the fact that you have doubtful voices and temptations to act against a new program, but that for today, you will not listen to them. And you practice that everyday.
I'm going to help you as much as I can within the program you've chosen to work with me on. And I definitely support you and will always be willing to give you guidance within those means. But it's your job to daily make better choices. You'll not be asked to be perfect, just the best you can for today."